Sunday, June 20, 2010

 

Sunday Reflection: Father's Day


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I woke up this morning thinking about my dad. As I get older, I realize new ways in which I am like him, for better or for worse-- mostly to the better. Many of his best qualities I only aspire to, and am far from achieving. Here are a few of the things I received from my father, some of which are gifts I have yet to fully accept:

1) My father has the amazing ability to see beauty in all things, in all places. An empty lot is not an eyesore to be filled up; rather it a place to gather wildflowers, to marvel at a pheasant, through which to see a vista. To him, people and things are inherently imbued with meaning, and the challenge of life is to draw that meaning out, to hold it in one's hand and marvel at it.

2) He has a love for and acceptance of complex people. He knows their flaws, and loves them anyways. A life presented to him as perfect is suspect and false, but one with dents and bruises is real and gorgeous. He is drawn to those who struggle, and recognizes that this is a group that includes us all. When he wants to help people, as he often does, it is rarely to change them in a fundamental way, but to help them be the way they see themselves, so long as that is an honest view.

3) He says and does the unexpected. He does not have the filter of "what will people think?" I don't always know the source of his internal moral compass, but it is always there and often points in a different direction than the norm, especially in a status-conscious place like Grosse Pointe.

4) He accepts wisdom from all sources. Literally, a homeless man in the Cass Corridor can be as wise to him as Plato. He rarely drops the name of anyone famous, but often quotes the words and stories of the humbled.

5) He gives freely. Even when he himself has been in need, he sometimes seems blind to this while still giving to others.

6) He has never, not once, in any way, revealed a prejudice of any kind. Though he would not articulate it this way, I have never met another person who so clearly lived out the Quaker ideal of seeing the light of God in every person.

7) He creates constantly. It did not stop at a certain time-- creation, with him, is life.

If you know John Shipman Osler, Jr., you know these things to be true. As my faith develops, I find that the lessons of Christ are often not so different than the lessons of my father, and that makes me love them both all the more.

Comments:
He was a breath of fresh air when visiting BLS. His fascination with people, nervous law student, visiting witness, scary PC profs (lol) just shone through. He seemed engaged, plugged directly into (and channelling) the energy of life without the walls that surround most. Happy Father's Day to you both!
 
I know Mr. John Shipman Osler, Jr and you describe him so eloquently. I so enjoyed seeing his artwork in person this past week. I missed visiting with him, but he was off building Habitat homes somewhere in the Detorit Metro area.

Happy Father's Day to both of you!
 
This is the most beautiful tribute I have ever read. Thank you.
 
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